"Why Don’t You Just Move On?" — A Gentle Response to a Not-So-Gentle Question

“Why don’t you just move on?”🙄

If only it were that simple, right?

If you’ve ever been on the receiving end of this question after ending your fertility journey without a baby, please know: I see you. I’ve been there. And I know firsthand—that’s not how healing works.

Ending fertility treatment is not just the end of a medical process. It’s the end of a dream, of hopes you’ve held in your heart, sometimes for years or decades. It’s the loss of the future you pictured. And that kind of loss doesn’t come with a tidy timeline.

Grief like this doesn’t disappear because someone says it should.💔 You don’t just wake up one morning and feel “over it.”

Moving forward is a journey—not a switch you can flip. It’s about making room for your grief, your anger, your confusion. It’s about learning how to live with a new version of your story—one you didn’t ask for. It’s also about rediscovering yourself, your joy, your strength… and learning that peace is possible, even if the path there looks different than you expected.

If you feel stuck, that’s okay.If you feel like no one gets it, I hear you. You’re not broken, and you’re not alone.

You’re allowed to move at your own pace. You’re allowed to take baby steps forward, even if they don’t feel like progress at first. And you’re allowed to hope—hope for peace, for purpose, and for a future you can feel excited about again.

You don’t have to “just move on.” You can move through—and I’ll be here cheering you on every step of the way.

With love,

Lisa 💗