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Redefining Family After Infertility — How I Learned Family Isn’t Only About Parenthood
For the longest time, I believed family was something you built only through children. It was the story I grew up with, the narrative that shaped adulthood, and the dream my husband and I carried together. So when infertility became our reality — and when we ultimately made the heartbreaking decision to stop treatment — I had to confront a fear I never expected: Who am I if I’m not a mother? And what does family even mean now? The shift didn’t happen overnight. It wasn’t a ne
Lisa Hohenadel
Nov 162 min read


🌈 Finding Rainbows in Unexpected Places
For so long, I yearned, hoped, and dreamed of our rainbow baby. I thought if I didn’t think positively enough, I would somehow jinx us....
Lisa Hohenadel
Sep 282 min read


Stepping Away from Fertility Treatment Doesn’t Mean Giving Up
Choosing to step away from the fertility journey is one of the hardest decisions you might ever make, and if you’re feeling that weight,...
Lisa Hohenadel
Aug 202 min read


You Don’t Have to “Just Move On” — Navigating the Childless Not by Choice Journey with Compassion
I get it—the childless not by choice journey is hard. 💔 It’s a kind of grief that’s often invisible to the world, yet it cuts deep....
Lisa Hohenadel
Aug 122 min read


When the Dream Changes: Finding Power After Letting Go of Motherhood.
There was a time when I couldn’t shake the feeling that I had failed. That I must have done something wrong. That I wasn’t enough. I had...
Lisa Hohenadel
Jul 292 min read


"Why Don’t You Just Move On?" — A Gentle Response to a Not-So-Gentle Question
“Why don’t you just move on?”🙄 If only it were that simple, right? If you’ve ever been on the receiving end of this question after...
Lisa Hohenadel
Jul 222 min read


Please Stop Saying “You Can Have My Kids” — It’s Not the Comfort You Think It Is
How many of us in the childless not by choice community have heard this? “You can have my kids.”“Take mine for the weekend — you’ll...
Lisa Hohenadel
Jun 302 min read


A Shift in Perspective: Finding Peace When You Can’t Change the Outcome
I’ve always been drawn to the idea that a simple shift in perception can create space for healing — especially when you’re faced with...
Lisa Hohenadel
Jun 83 min read


When Hope Isn’t Enough: The Unseen Harm in Well-Intended Words
“Anything is possible.” “Just smile more and worry less.” “Never fold. Never back down.” “Hope is all you need.” These statements sound...
Lisa Hohenadel
Jun 12 min read


When Life Doesn’t Go as Planned: What Infertility and Childlessness Have Taught Me
It’s no secret that life can be… unpredictable exciting disappointing thrilling scary adventurous and so much more! If you're anything...
Lisa Hohenadel
May 252 min read


You Won’t Feel Broken Forever: A Truth I Had to Learn the Hard Way
There was a time — and honestly, many times — during my fertility journey and transition into a childless not by choice life, when I...
Lisa Hohenadel
May 213 min read


“You Wouldn’t Understand, You Don’t Have Kids.” Why This Comment Hurts — And What You Might Be Overlooking
There’s a phrase many of us who are childless not by choice have heard more than once. It often slips out casually, without malice, but...
Lisa Hohenadel
May 32 min read


The Quiet Strength That Helped Me Through
When I think back on the early days of our fertility journey, one memory always stands out to me. It was after our very first appointment...
Lisa Hohenadel
Apr 272 min read


Infertility Unfiltered: Why Sharing Our Truth Matters
This week is National Infertility Awareness Week , and the theme— Infertility Unfiltered —couldn’t be more fitting. Because if you’re...
Lisa Hohenadel
Apr 222 min read


When the Dream Doesn’t Come True: A Letter to Women Ending Their Fertility Journey without a Baby.
I wish you hadn’t needed to find this blog. If you’re here, chances are you’ve endured one of the hardest experiences of your...
Lisa Hohenadel
Apr 92 min read


Why "Just Try IVF" (or Adoption) Isn’t the Support We Need
Infertility is one of the most deeply personal and emotionally charged experiences a person can go through. And yet, when we opened up...
Lisa Hohenadel
Mar 232 min read


Reclaiming Control After Infertility: Finding Peace in a Childless Life
Infertility is a journey of surrender. From the moment you step into a fertility clinic, you begin relinquishing control—over your body,...
Lisa Hohenadel
Mar 162 min read


Finding Peace After Infertility: Reclaiming Control and Embracing Hope
Infertility is an experience that takes so much from you—physically, emotionally, and mentally. When you choose to pursue fertility...
Lisa Hohenadel
Feb 231 min read


The Weight of 'At Least': Why These Words Can Hurt More Than Help
I lost count of how many times, well-intentioned people used the phrase “at least” with us after we miscarried and throughout our...
Lisa Hohenadel
Feb 172 min read


Honoring Grief and Finding Peace in the Childless Not by Choice Journey
I would be lying if I said I don’t have moments of grief for the child we miscarried or that I don’t feel sadness over the fact that we...
Lisa Hohenadel
Feb 172 min read
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